Whomever takes the Blame Wins!

I was a 14-year-old  kid going thru Hesston High School in Kansas  being very, very rambunctious, and often disrespectful.  The thought that crossed my mind while acting this way was if I never get caught “I WIN”.  Many times my friends and I either cheated on tests, brought in stink bombs ” that actually is still funny” lol, snuck in alcohol, picked fights, or drew inappropriate picks on the chalk boards before class, and the whole goal was to not get caught. Finally we would eventually get caught and try to hand others the blame.  While it seemed innocent fun at that age, it seems the blame game never changes.

In LIFE you will be able to choose  {dream- struggle-victory} or {dream-struggle-victim}by who you lay blame for during the struggle period.  Dennis Waitley says “There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them”.  I believe that and also believe we have to accept the blame for where we are at.  A person who doesn’t accept the blame will say things like, it’s too hard, I’m too busy, this doesn’t work here, this is a bad time of year, if my husband/wife would etc etc, it’s too cold/hot, no money, no time, if my boss etc etc.  Shifting blame to others as I did in school or to things like time, money, spouse, co-worker,job, family,  boss seems like a good way to handle the situation we are in, but in effect it causes us to have to keep our situation because until we realize the responsible party we cannot fix the responsible one.  George Bernard Shaw wrote “Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it”.

When finally I started working on myself. could I then begin handling the struggle correctly. Most go from DREAM to STRUGGLE to VICTIM only because they believe that they are a victim of the situation.  A leader goes from Dream to Struggle to Victory because he knows that he can only work on the situation correctly if he works on himself correctly by leveraging better information into his or her life .  I thank Bill and Jann Newton, Tim and Amy Marks,  for handling struggles correctly by taking Blame and working on themselves, so I could see that example and do the same thing. God Bless

Cody Newton

“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!”

Matthew 25:21


Thinking right toward people

In everything we do with others there is many goals we are trying to accomplish. Sometimes our goal is to just make more friends or just have someone to talk to. Sometimes its creating a business relationship or finding a  “dater friend,” that is what i told my wife i was looking for..lol  After reading books and listening to cds, they taught to first check your motives and make sure they were a win- win. Next is to learn principles from some of the greatest friendship builders in America. Ive heard it quoted many times “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”

Dr. Joseph Schwartz. In a section about “Thinking Right Toward People,” he went into President Lyndon Johnsons 10 pts


  • (1)Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing.
  • (2)Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you. Be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual.
  • (3)Acquire the quality of relaxed easy-going so that things do not ruffle you.
  • (4)Don’t be egotistical. Guard against the impression that you know it all.
  • (5)Cultivate the quality of being interesting so people will get something of value from their association with you.
  • (6)Study to get “scratchy” elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
  • (7)Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off grievances.
  • (8)Practice liking people until you learn to do so genuinely.
  • (9)Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
  • (10)Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.